Anonymous asked: Theres this girl i really like. She lives around the corner from me and we were in the same class all year. We finally started talking this year. Were in 2 different group of friends but we have eacother's number. How do i talk to her or text her with out it being like y am i randomly texting her and hopefully hanging out from there?

maybe if someone in your grade is going you can ask her if she’s going and if she is be like see you there when you see her there you can talk to her and maybe text her that night

Anonymous asked: I am a freshman. There is this softmore in my financial lit. class that i really like. I've known her for a long time since we live around the corner from eachother. We've never really became close enough frineds that we talk outside of school. since theres only a little bit of school left and ik im not gonna b seeing her during the summer how do i get it so we atleast get to start talking to eachother outside school and hanging out?

maybe you could arrange to have a bunch of people from the neighborhood to hangout and invite her and if she comes try to get alone time with her

Anonymous asked: im scared to talk to guys first. but its not just talking to them, its liking their picture or statuses and stuff like that. i feeel im not going to get anywhere with the guy i like because i never chat him. what do you think i should do?

i don’t think you should like to many of their pictures or statuses because that can get a little creepy dont poke him either unless he poked you first. i would just try chatting him, maybe if you have a class together ask about the homework, ask about something stupid to make small talk then work your way up from there. and you cant like someone you’ve never talked to before so perhaps you should just grow a pair of balls and say hi to figure out how you really feel about him

Anonymous asked: I’m afraid to not wear makeup to school because since i am hideous, i think my friends wont talk to me anymore. now that they have seen the real me, I’m afraid they will be scared to be seen with me. Also, I’m afraid that people will start talking about how fake & ugly i am.. people are telling me to wear no makeup tomorrow, but im afraid about what they will say.. what should i do ?

sorry you sent this as fanmail so i had to send it to myself so i can answer it. anyway first of all your probably not hideous at all you probably just look different from when you wear makeup & when you dont but everybody does. if you think your friends wont talk to you because you dont wear makeup one day then you shouldnt be friends with them thats the real problem. you should be comfortable that your friends wont judge you or say anything about you that makes you feel negative. friends arent there to tear you down. i think you shouldnt wear makeup to school one day but you need to own it. if somebody calls you ugly you keep your head up and you smile. own it, work it. be confident. have confidence in yourself. your stunning inside & out and you shouldnt let anybody make you think otherwise. if people treat you differently when you dont wear makeup they dont deserve to be friends with you do it as a test to see who should be kept in your life and who shouldnt. you can do it, your beautiful, your strong. good luck to you

Anonymous asked: how do i make myself look prettier.

have confidence in yourself it’s attractive but dont be a cocky bitch. & smile, when you smile at someone they naturally smile back!(:

Anonymous asked: so there's this guy (it's a long story and might be continued). he depruded me, and i fell for him when i shouldn't. a month later i hooked up with him after he hooked up with this other girl. i pretty much got sloppy seconds and i lost a lot of respect in myself, and people lost respect for me. i still kinda have feelings for him, but also i just wanna be able to see him. its confusing... i might see him thursday, or at a party in june. im worried that he would want to hook up with me again,

okay first of all nobody should be loosing respect for you for hooking up with somebody unless your fricken two years old. it’s your life, everybody has different morals, beliefs, and opinions, yours may be different from someone else’s but it doesn’t mean either one of you are wrong. you aren’t wrong for hooking up with him if you believe you aren’t. but dont let other people’s opinions shape your own. you need to have confidence in what you do and what you say if you can’t own up to something you did or you feel like your going to regret it, you probably shouldn’t do it. worry about liking yourself first, then you can care about what other people think. there is no need to loose respect in yourself. i think you should text him be like hey, i miss you or something and just try talking or whatever and see how things go from there. dont just hookup with him because your at a party do it because you both like each other and you’ve been talking and you want to. dont give him the idea that your booty call for whenever you guys are out. if you like him you should let him know how you feel and see how it plays out from there. if he’s with another girl though let them be if two people are happy together they should be left alone. i hope all goes well with him but if not there are plenty of other guys out there waiting to love you the way you deserve to be loved.

- allison 

Anonymous asked: your links for your tumblrs arent working

yes i realize that -__- but i dont know how to fix it

Anonymous asked: tips on how to hookup?

as cliche as it sounds it comes very naturally. just dont pull away! i did my first time because i was scared, just dont pull away and you should be fine! & dont bite :)

Anonymous asked: for about six months i was in an emotionally abusive relationship. its about a month later and i'm talking to someone new, hes really sweet and cute and i like him, but i still think i have feelings for my ex. i've recently convinced myself that i hate him & now he's trying to inch back into my life. i'm scared that if i let him back into my life it wont end well at all & i'll be more shattered than i already am.. what should i do?

letting him back into your life is not a good idea at all. you have people who love you your family & friends and if they see you getting hurt again their not going to be to satisfied. i can promise you that an emotionally abusive relationship is not a good relationship. this is so cliche but you honestly deserve so much better. i dont think you miss your ex or have feelings for him i think you just miss being loved and being told that your pretty and i think you should try things out with this new guy. if your not ready to date and are unsure about how you feel about this new guy then hold off a little longer just hangout with your friends and keep yourself happy. you can not start dating until you are emotionally in check and having feelings for your ex is just the opposite of that. you used the word shattered thats a really strong word i think you should take time to yourself and start piecing yourself together maybe go to therapy or a life coach if you believe in that or just find something that makes you really happy and stick to it focus on school finish out this year strong do things for yourself and make yourself happy before you start worrying about other people. i dont think you should talk to your ex at all sure you to will always be unfinished business and when he crosses your mind you might wonder what you could have been but i can promise you you wont be completely happy with him there will always be a part of you that wants more & you can have that i can best assure you theres somebody out there who will love you for everything you are and for everything your ex hated about you. please for yourself dont be weak. dont let him win, dont let him in. he had his chance he screwed it up, let him emotionally abusive somebody else your better then that.

- allison

Anonymous asked: i really like this girl in my class. But she thinks bad things about me, how do i fix that so we can atleast be good friends?

well what kind of bad things does she think? i mean you can try talking to her and clarifying that those things arent true. but why would you want to be with someone who thinks badly of you? i would try talking to her and let her get to know the real you and let her get her own opinion about you unlike how it is now because her conception of you is probably based off rumors and bad things shes heard about you. let her know that mistakes dont define us. i feel as if once you do one thing wrong nobody can forget but if you do something right no one can remember. 

Anonymous asked: im really young but all my friends have guys all over them and every party they all have someone to hookup with and be with and i dont...what if the right guy never comes.

Like you said, you’re really young! I promise that if you give it time, the right guy will come along. Since you’re really young you don’t need to be hooking up with every party,but I promise eventually you’ll find someone you really like.

Anonymous asked: I like this girl alot...but were in only one class together and were not really friends outside that class. Ik she doesnt like me but i like her. Shes single and ik wants a bf. But shes really cute and super popular so she has a lot of guys who hang around her. How to i get it to the point of us being close to going out?

You should try to talk to her in the one class you have with her! If she wants a boyfriend then that’s a perfect opportunity for you. Once you guys start talking a little more in class then eventually you can start texting her, and from texting you can ask her to hangout..and so on. 

Anonymous asked: well this isn't about a boy but all of my friends have been keeping so much from me lately. they literally exclude me from big hangouts and don't hang out with just me anymore.. lately they have just been keeping so many secrets from me. should i confront them? and if so, how should i? like what do i say

haha it doesn’t need to be about a boy silly(: well if they are ignoring you and excluding you why would you even want friends like that… people change they grow apart maybe that’s what their doing you can confront them if you’d like but truthfully i would find new friends who want to hangout with you and make an effort to see you. i’m sure there are plenty of people who would love to hang out with you so give them the change. call up an old friend who you haven’t seen for awhile and catch up with them. but if you really want to figure out whats going on with your current friends call them up and ask if they want to hangout if they say no ask why their always ditching/ignoring you

- allison 

Anonymous asked: how can u tell if hes using you

well for what? sexual pleasure? i mean it’s pretty obvious if you even need to question if he’s with you for the right reasons then he probably is using you no offense. if your not in a exclusive relationship dont have sex or do anything with a guy unless you want to. dont do it because he’s saying he loves you or whatever. because a guy will seduce every girl but the one he loves and girls will be seduced by no guy but the one she loves. basically if you arent together and you dont really talk about feelings a lot and he just tells you to like do something with him or asks if you want to hookup at a party he’s probably using you. but he  might be using you unintentionally because you didnt make your desires clear like if you want to be more or not because most of the time guys wont hookup with a girl whos looking for a relationship if their not. they dont like clingy. - allison